What to Expect When Engaging a Male Escort
Unsure about booking me as your male escort? Here’s what to expect
You may be surprised to know that, as a male escort, I’m also excited before a first date.
I bring this up after a recent conversation in which a client confessed that her nerves had gotten the better of her for months until she finally summoned the courage to email me. We then conversed, and she found the confidence to formally book a date. When she did make the booking, there was an initial feeling of elation, but as the date drew closer, she said her excitement turned into nerves.
What if he doesn’t like me? What if he’s not attracted to me? What do we talk about? How will I know what to do and when?
She’s not alone. If I were to hazard a guess, I’d say that 99.9% of my clients have shared this same experience. But it’s like anything – when you’re in the moment, living it – there’s nothing to be concerned about. Everything flows. But out of interest, I thought I’d spend this month reflecting on what to expect when engaging me as your male escort.
‘What if the male escort isn’t attracted to me?’
One of the first things I say to this is – choose your escort wisely. There are a variety of male escorts in Sydney who are wildly different. For me, as an exclusively heterosexual/straight male escort, it all starts with communication. But I’m not what many would describe as your ‘typical’ male escort, which is why it’s important to take the time to research different escorts, read reviews, and communicate openly about your needs and boundaries.
For me, attraction comes from the person. There’s always something – hand on heart, I can honestly say that I’m attracted to my clients. There are a lot of common misconceptions about male escorting, such as the idea that it’s synonymous with unrealistic TV portrayals, that it’s solely about sex, or that all male escorts must be porn stars. In reality, the industry is far more diverse and complex. And for me, the motivations of each client vary greatly – from seeking companionship and intimacy to exploring sexual fantasies in a safe, controlled environment.
So don’t start second-guessing yourself. Instead, find an escort with whom you feel a rapport because feeling comfortable is key.
‘How does payment work?’
This is one of the most important topics because the last thing either of us want is to make our time together feel transactional.
Every male escort is different, but I prefer to have all the payment details squared away before the date; it gives us time and space to focus purely on you and your needs.
Ordinarily, we’d message and organise a pre-meeting phone call where we get a feel for one another and your general background and brief. We’ll nail down the details of our date – timing, location, and pricing, with the payment process handled discreetly so the focus remains on your comfort and pleasure.
‘What happens during a date?’
With every date unique, this is the million-dollar question. But it’s also the main concern of anyone who’s unsure of what to expect when engaging a male escort.
With me? Typically, we meet – and I’m always happy to take the initiative with a hug and kiss! From there, it’s whatever we’ve planned. A stroll through the city, a gorgeous dinner, a drink in a bar – or all three if you’d prefer. Some dates are more talking and less physicality, whereas others may be more physical. It depends purely on the person, the situation, and the plan. Do we have three hours or three days at our disposal?
One of the great things about being a male escort is actually the conversations; for me, it’s a comfortable, dialogue-driven experience where I hope you feel heard and catered to. I appreciate the opportunity to connect with a diverse range of people and provide a safe, judgment-free space to explore their desires. When someone doesn’t fear being rejected or needs to worry about feeling out of control, everything changes; it’s like suddenly operating in zero gravity.
‘So… what should I expect with… who initiates what?’
This is the beauty of the escort/client relationship – the client dynamic is so incredibly unique. Worried about who takes the initiative and when? It’s taken care of. And with elements of the prearranged and assumed because of the context, we both know where we stand.
It’s not like a date where we’re both second-guessing ourselves and nervously wondering…
OK, so where are we at? Who’s going to make the move? How do I know if he wants me to do something?
With me, the client dynamic ensures that I not only keep things moving, but also progressing from Point A to Point B.
In a nutshell, when engaging me as your male escort you’ll feel comfortable – not rushed, pressured, or awkward. This is your time; enjoy it.
Is it awkward… afterwards?
God no! Well, not with me, anyway. And there’s absolutely no reason for it to be.
Remembering that we’ve been talking before this meeting and so, just like any relationship, there’s always the casual and not-so-casual chit chat. Whether we explore the deep and meaningful or keep it light, the end of our time together is just as enjoyable (possibly more so, as your nerves should be long gone!) as the beginning.
I’ll always kiss and hug you goodbye – not because I have to but because it’s my choice to do so. I’m often asked if I develop feelings for clients and the answer is yes, of course I do; we’re not existing in a void. For me it’s about making a genuine connection, one person to another. And to be honest, the ability to see the beauty in everyone – inside and out – and getting to know you better is what captivates me.
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If ever I can be of help, please do reach out – I’d absolutely love to hear from you!
